I have two children. A girl, and a boy. A millionaire's family, said a stranger to me, when I was traveling with my kids. I only ever wanted to have two children. If I had ended up with multiples, we would have been fine, but you get my drift. After two singleton births, we are not planning on any more children. My husband had a vasectomy a few months after my son was born.
The thing is, he has never had a follow up appointment to make sure the procedure worked. Every once in a while, something comes up, or someone will ask a question, and I wonder what would happen. What if I were pregnant again? Of course, we would love the child (and, hopefully it would only be one), as we love our other children. We just would like to move on as a family, and another baby means going back to the way things were two, three years ago.
I loved being pregnant. I loved the sensation of the baby inside, moving around, for the most part. I had uneventful, and pleasant pregnancies, aside from a touch of morning sickness, and a lot of water retention. I swelled up, especially towards the end, in both pregnancies. I also miss having children so small you can carry them with one arm. The sweet involuntary newborn smiles when the baby is sleeping are the best. There are so many things about newborns, and infants, I will miss, and will very likely never experience again.
As older parents, the lack if sleep would definitely have its toll on us. There is also the fact that we have pretty much gotten rid of all our baby stuff. This summer, we had a yard sale, and sold the baby items that had been cluttering up our home. The clothes have all been passed on to friends. More expensive things were sold on Kijijij, or given to friends with babies. Most of my friends have children older than our own, so I jump at the opportunity to help out the few friends who have just started their families.
Yes, buying baby stuff, again, would be an added expense, but a new baby eventually grows up, and becomes another child, then an adult. Humans are much more expensive when they are bigger, and eating real food, and needing clothes, and an education. I am completely fine with knowing I will not have another baby. I can hold someone else's little one for a while. We finally stopped using diapers in our home a month ago. After five years, do you know how great that is?
It is unlikely we have to worry my husband's procedure did not work. We have been having "unprotected" sex often enough, and around my fertile times, for years, without any surprises. We did have fertility issues trying to get pregnant with my daughter. Even if the vasectomy reversed itself, I think we would have some trouble getting pregnant. My son was conceived relatively quickly, after a month of "trying", but the key word was that we were trying. I have to work at getting pregnant. We are lucky to have made two beautiful, usually wonderful children. Most days, I would not trade them for the world ;).
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